Conville & Walsh

It is a phrase that many of us have heard or have spoken, and can be an achingly frustrating rejection to bear for the person on the receiving end, but what exactly can it mean, and is there hope for a relationship if one partner is beginning to feel ‘I love you but…’? Examining the causes of the phenomenon which is now ubiquitous among couples attending therapy, the leading therapist and journalist Andrew G. Marshall aims to help readers to get a grip on the crisis and to recover their relationship before counselling is necessary.

He may be doing himself out of a job, but Andrew firmly believes that, if caught soon enough, the trend can be reversed and couples can regain security, intimacy and deep trust; to feel confident and confidently ‘in’ love. His ideas will almost certainly cause friction at first, as a central theme of the book is that we should strive to define ourselves against our partners as much as alongside them, but there’s every chance that the post-’I love you but…’ relationship will be stronger than ever before. Written with a practical focus, the book is inclusive enough also to inform those who feel that the confession may have been a smokescreen for hidden issues in a relationship; as well as those wanting to understand the end of a previous relationship to avoid encountering the same situation again.